But since my darling husband is chit chatting on the phone with his friends I will give some insight on myself.
Roxanne 1995
I am 28 years old. Born August 12th, 1976
Come from a family of 5 1 sister, and 3 brothers. I am the baby.
Born in the middle of the United States
I am an X Air Force brat ( and proud of it )
Currently living in Arizona
I have no kids, but been working on some for 5 years
Been married for 7 years as of April 22nd
I live in a house that I worked my ass off to get
Hobbies: Going the movies, going out to eat, horseback riding, spending time with my best friend Simba, collecting any and all R.L Stines and Little Golden Books, collecting plastic horses (bryers), collect mcfarlane figures, singing, cartoon porn, and hanging out with people.
Jerry 1998
My husband Jerry is 31 and he has no kids from a previous relationship
He comes from a family of 6 he is the oldest 2 brothers and 3 sisters
He is a native Arizonian (not to many of those running around)
Hobbies: Reptile collecting, herping (road cruising for reptiles) hiking, spending money, going the movies, Mexican food, playing video games, downloading anything and everything till his hard drive starts smoking, talking on the phone, watching TV, singing, hanging out with his friends.
How it all began: November 1997, My friend Jenna calls me up late one night telling me about her boyfriends friend Jerry and how he wants to me meet me. Actually she was trying to get some alone time with her man but he was ALWAYS around so she showed him a picture of me, and he just had to get with me. I personally had just gotten out of a relationship that was really bad. I had been dating and living with, Robert James VanDemark from Pennsylvania, and about 6 months into the relationship he started cheating on me, calling me names, and abusing me. With the help of my friends I finally got away from him. Was 6 months single when Jenna decided to play love connection. Anyways.... He and I talked on the phone for 2 months. Every phone call consisted of him begging me to go out with him. He even had Jenna begging me. I kept refusing until finally to make him shut up I went out with him.
Our first date was at the beginning of January on a Monday. A good old fashioned double date. Jenna and her boyfriend and me and him. I decked myself out and waited for him to arrive. Finally after dark the doorbell rings. Jenna stood on my porch. Grabbing my bag we head out to this 2 door 1992 Chevy cavalier. She climbs into the backseat, where I see this really short and really skinny guy. Now jenna is not a skinny girl, so it was a bit of a fit. Next I climbed in. Looking over to introduce myself the first thought that went through my mind was 'no wonder nobody told me what he looked like'. HEHE big nose, big ears, ultra thin, looking like he was 16 years old, and had done ALOT of drugs. Now I am not the type of person who relies on looks to get me through life but this guy was not what I was expecting. He had a really nice begging voice.
We arrive at a bar 45 minutes later. I was not even close to being old enough. Getting out of the car I realized how tall Jerry was WOW he is freakin tall. We all walked in and found a table next to the karaoke dj. After a few minutes of chit chat the guys decided to play pool. Us gals just sat and chat. An hour or two passes and Jerry and I have not talked even gotten close to one another. I decide to use the restroom and Jenna follows. Checking my makeup (typical chick thing) Jenna confronts me. 'Your not interested in him are you" I looked at her and gave her the DUH look. After discussing that this was pointless we finally decide to just go home. Squeezing back into the car, Jenna leans forward and says that Jerry is going to drive her home first then he will take me home. I rolled my eyes. At her place we got out and talked for a few minutes. Jenna, knowing my track records with guys, begs me not to kiss him knowing full well that he will fallow me like a puppy, like other past relationships have. Trust me I didn't plan on it. Driving me home he puts in Weird Al Yankovich, one of my many favorite singers. That released the tension a bit. We both sang along with the CD.
Finally getting home well after 1am I sit in his car trying to figure out how to get out of the car. We talked for a few minutes and I thanked him for an interesting night. Next thing I know he is kissing me. Time stood still literally. I get out the car and make my way inside saying to myself. SHIT what have I done. I have fucked everything up. I close the door to my house and peek out the little window and still see him sitting there staring at my house. I said to myself 'go away, go away'. Finally he drives off and I run to grab the cordless phone to call Jenna. My first words to her are "I fucked up" Jenna new what I was talking about immediately and chewed me out for 5 minutes. When I finally got a word I explained to her that he started it. I guess that was no excuse. Hanging up the phone I went to my room to think about the night. Two thirty in the morning arrives and he is calling me. My mother is screaming about phone calls in the middle of the night to the conversation lasted but a few seconds.
For 2 months I ignored him as best as I could. He was stalking me. Always calling always wanting to come over. I had my mom lying to him and telling him I was gone out with friends when I was actually home. My mother eventually got fed up and decided she would stop lying for me, and resorted to lying to me. 'Marianne is on the phone' HA I LIED. Again the begging begins, and again I went out with him to shut him up. This date went better the second time around.
Yet again another double date. Back to the same bar. Even to the same table for sitting and shooting pool. For some reason I was not as bothered by him but I was still not that interested. Jenna told me when the guys went to get something to drink that I don't have to date but at least be friends and hang out in double dates. To make her happy I oblidged. They came back and I decided to let the little kid in me out. Tyler, Jennas man, had set up a table and Jerry was prepping the table. We watched for a few minutes and then I became a little devil. Jerry layed his beer down on the table to take his turn, I quickly guzzled half of it and put it back. Then quickly took a drink of a my soda to mask the smell and the taste. (not to fond of beer). Jenna thought that was funny, I just gave her a crooked smile. 'Watch this'. He had lit up a smoke and after taking 2 drags placed it in the ashtray to take his turn. I grabbed the cigarette and smoked it until there were just two hits left maybe. Never smoked anything that fast before. After a few minutes of sitting there Jerry finally decided to take a drink and got this really baffled look on his face. HMMMMm I wonder why? He takes a swig of his beer and reached for his smoke and again that same baffled look. He must have a really bad memory. Lighting another smoke and sitting down I step around behind him and pretending like I am digging into my purse I bump and brush him. This continues through the night. The more I got close to him to steal something of his or play a prank I began to feel differently about him. But it had been MANY months since I had had a male play mate so I figured I was just horny. The night finally ends and he again drives Jenna home then me. I lived bout 20 miles away. At my house we talk and again he kisses me. My heart races. I actually held my breath. I new this would not be the last time I would see him.
A week passes it is Monday again. He picks me up first then gets Jenna. Off to the bar for Karaoke and pool. Surprisingly I am not bored with this place. For two weeks of February, on every Monday, we shoot pool and sing. One night he asks me to come back to his place after we drop off Jenna. I said sure I figured it was time to see how he lives. Arriving at his house I learn he lives with his grandmother, 3 sisters, and 1 brother, plus a father in law. Grandma is at work, and everyone else is asleep. We sit down on the couch and he puts in the VHS Grease. I love this movie. This became a Monday night ritual then his place. Two weeks of this, longer than I expected, he start doing the typical male thing and put the moves on me. I wouldn't let him go very far but it was fun seeing how persistent he was. Every Monday he would try again and I would let him get a little further. Never letting him touch anywhere he wanted to. untill one night.
We had finished watching grease and his back was aching. I told him to go into the bedroom and I would give him massage. Climbing onto the top bunk of the single size bunkbed I have him lay on his back. As I massage I make him remove his shirt and pants so that all he has is his shorts on. Being very relaxed I make a fuss about his underwear and tell him he needs to get rid of it for me to do any more rubbing........ NO MORE INFO USE YOUR IMAGINATION
My mom confronts me one day and tells me that I need to inform Jerry of the move to Missouri. I had not planned on telling him because I figured we were not that serious and he would not want to live together. Didn't help I had no other place to go. Moms are very persistent so I invited Jerry over to tell him the bad news. We went for a walk. After talking to him about it for an hour or so he decided he suddenly had to leave and walked me home. I put it together that he was pissed and this was the last time I would hear from him. Next day he returns back to my house and asks me to come and live with him. He had rented an apartment just down the street and didn't want me to leave. He was adamant about that. Took me surprise and I had ALOT to think about. My family was moving, my friends were enjoying there own lives, but I really didn't want to move. Being a military brat I had never lived anywhere for so long. I talked to my mom about it and she did her regular guilt trip. "I really want you to come with me but if you think you will be happy with him go ahead and stay here. I am not going to force you'. You know the typical semi guilt trip.
Well in mid march we moved in together. Boy did he get the whole package with me. I came with furniture. I could cook, clean, and I was employed. I was definitely sad to see my mom go but one thing I kept saying to myself was I am finally on my own I have to make it now. We lived there for 8 months. Would have lived there longer but we forced the complex to the break our lease because for the 8 months we were there the ac was broken. If you know Arizona and the summer you know how hot it can get nobody can sleep and not enough fans in the house can keep you cool.
We moved in with his grandmother next. Stayed there for 2 years. Two years to long. Alot of fighting went on and not only between Jerry and I. The whole house has got into fights. In this 3 bedroom 1 bathroom house there was, me jerry and 3 cats in one rooms, grandma and two little sisters, with 2 dogs, in another room, the third room consisted of a step father, another little sister and a little brother, in the living room on the couch was the possible father of the youngest sister, and on another couch there was his mother. ALOT of people in a little bitty place. Thank god we worked nights.
We married 6 months after moving in. Was kind of an unexpected thing. Jerry and I had gone to Best Buy for some price comparison and I had stopped at a lap top to write a message to Jerry. Yes I am a little romantic. The Message said. 'Whenever you are ready to get married I am more than willing.' To this day he still claims he is the one who wrote it and we were not at best buy. Whatever. Anywho.... I guess that was kind of my proposal cause next thing I new he was telling everyone that we were engaged. One night while talking to my mom we told her. Now THAT was a mistake. She began choosing the date, time, place and guest list. 'It had to be during these months and certain people are NOT invited. Well this pissed off Jerry. A couple weeks pass and out of the blue he decides we are going to Vegas to get married. We were not even out of bed yet. 'Call Jenna tell her to find a babysitter were going to get married in Vegas'. Yeah I was pumped but also a little upset I wanted to have a real wedding. Well Jenna couldn't find a babysitter for her son so we took him with us. We grabbed our best clothes checked the bank account and drove until the wee hours of the night. Stopping at Walmart to buy some 30 dollar rings. By the time we got there it was 11pm on April 21st. After getting the license and finding a chapel we got married. We were married in the Chapel by the courthouse on April 22nd 1999. We stayed in the Excalibur for a VERY nice price. Didn't tell them that Jenna was gonna be there too. Went up to the room, settled in and kicked Jenna out with about 20 dollars in nickels and quarters. The baby stayed in a doorless closet on the floor and we consummated our marriage in the jacuzzi and on the bed. When Jenna finally arrived she laid down with her son and we went to sleep. Knowing that Jerry had to be at work at 10pm that night the visit would be short. Early early morning the baby woke us women folk up and we left the room on a hunt for diapers. MY GOD those things are bloody expensive there. Waiting for Jerry to wake up we took the coins and took turns playing the slots. One watched the baby the other played. Around 11am we got Jerry up had some breakfast walked around the place for a couple hours. Ate again and headed home getting there just in time to eat again and go to work. We lived a year and a half with grandmother until a huge fight forced us to move out.
Our second apartment was a 2 bedroom, 2 bath. We moved Jeff the possible father of the youngest girl in with us. For two years we stayed there. It was ok living but it was a ways away from our work. This is where we started trying for a baby. We did the while fertility clinic thing and learned that his sperm count is so low that it is barely acknowledgeable and I don't produce enough eggs that are not even dropping when they are supposed to. But we kept trying. They were about to take a swimmer and insert it into one of my eggs but Jerry decided this was a huge financial burden and backed out. Cant do it if we don't got the sperm. I kept on trying.
Then we got our house. Jeff lived with us there too for a year but we needed some alone time. Since we had been married we had not lived alone. It was time. Our house was not much closer to work but definitely nicer. It was or is a 3 bedroom 2 bath 2 car garage with a backyard. Been here 3 years I am still trying to have a baby. I want a little girl really bad. Already got a named picked out Angelina Jeannita. AJ for short. If I ever do get pregnant and it is a boy Jerry gets to name it but I have already said no to certain names, Axl, William, or Bill. Anyone who knows him knows he is infactuated with Guns N Roses.
JESUS ok that is enough. All this writing and all I wrote about is how Jerry and I met. Guess my April first post went farther than I hoped for and he just got off the phone 15 minutes ago. Now am I a really fast typist or did he talk for a millennium.
