Friends

What are friends? Does anyone really know? I mean what makes a friend a friend. How does one become a friend? It is by talking to someone. If so I got shitloads of friends all over the world. Is it by smiling? Geeze I hope not cause then I am the most popular person in the world. I have often thought about this question 'What makes a friend a friend"?

Back before 1997 I had loads of friends. We hung out, talked on the phone, shared secrets, hid out at each other places, we even got into trouble quite a few times. But now I realize they weren't really friends they were loafers and moochers. Or were just using me to make someone else jealous. I can not seriously sit here and think of anyone who did anything for me unless it benefited them. Well cept for a choice few and that was still a small amount. The girls I hung out with never invited me to go and do things with them, the guys just wanted to make out. They found out I was not that easy. After highschool it was people who needed a place to go or were looking
for a party. Which I supplied nightly. Come in smoke out, sleep over, go home. See ya
tomorrow. Now it is 2005 and I still don't have any friends. I don't get why either. I am really friendly and always willing to lend a hand to anyone that will take it. My should and ear get more of a workout than my legs do and I pace a lot at work. But that is only at work. I don't even get phone calls with people wanting to chat. Of course I am not a phone person. I prefer face to face than voice to voice. You can't hug someone with a word. *HUG* this don't count.

Now my husband he has LOTS of friends. A lot of them associate with me too but they would never invite me to go do something with them or talk on the phone with me for hours. Jerrys friends call him all the time and do things with him all the time. Invite him to hunting, movies, dinner, to their houses and to dinner. Some of his friends are not really inviting me but since I am the wife and he loves me they have no choice. I don't restrict him to the house. My only request is that he don't go drinking especially where there are other females, and that he checks in with me every 3-4 hours so I know he is ok. No reason making him miserable being trapped at home all the time. About 70% of his friends are kewl the other 30% I would swear are pitty cases and have very serious mental problems. Yeah I am talking about you matt Jim and john....... JOKING... GEEZE. Actually I like most of his friends there are just 3-4 that I could keep on slapping and never feel bad about it. Only one of them knows I feel this way as I have pointed it out to him in person. This I am NOT
joking about. Here lemme tell you about his friends. Wait lemme get mine out of the way then we will work on his. He has a HUGE list.

John/Simba - I met him in 1992, in high school. He puppy dogged me for bout a year before I finally decided to go out with him. I was new to civilian life and was adjusting to the new way of life and totally different types of people. Besides he had all the other girls drooling over him so it was not like he was desperate for love. Once we finally went out it was off and on for 2 years, til we finally decided to just be friends. He still had all the girls wanting him and We both still had feelings towards one another but nothing was ever acted on. Thought of but never acted on. Though he had moved to Oklahoma for 3 years and came out of the closet we were still the closest of friends and still are. He now lives south of Tucson but we talk once a week. My husband is kewl with it cause he is gay I think if he was bi or into chicks only, I would never be permitted to see him. We all know how guys are. Anyways John is the greatest person I ever met and though he annoys the crap out
of me I always feel better when I know he is ok. He is totally into Disney characters, and has drawn 4 murals of every single Disney character up to a certain date. I begged for one these since 1993. I finally got mine a few months ago, it is hanging on my ceiling.

Angel - She and I have been friends since 1989. I met her in Japan when my father was on tour there. Our friendship began at a school bus stop off-base. She has 2 sisters and 3 brothers. Our friendship was based all around horses and our perkiness. We were in the same grade but never had a class together, but we had plans for the future. Then she moved which is where I lost her. I had moved back to the U.S. and we had planned to spend the summer together. We never talked again. It was creepy just how she vanished. After searching on the internet and recruiting all my internet pals I finally found her on classmates.com. Actually I found her sister. When we started socializing again I learned that she had a baby and she was married. It was a definite reverse from my life. Yeah I was married too but I could never have a child. (That is a whole separate blog right there). WE have tried to make plans to see each other again but the work force won't permit it. At least we get to
talk.

I have people I used to work with that I have gone out with a few times but it has been awhile now it is just phone tag and unwilling. These people are Debi, Kate, Cindy and Mark. I met all of them at ghettospectrum. I don't really do much with them anymore barely even talk anywhere else. They have kids and jobs too that keep them from doing anything. Doesn't help they have the weekends off and I don't. The calls are getting fewer and farther between soon to be non existent.

Then I have the people I talk to online.... Rob, Peet, Guike, and Giant. Rob is my closest pal though he has vanished off the face of the earth. Peet is into dragons and I swear works to much. Guike is an alternate father online. He is kewl and loves his son. Giant sends me the coolest pictures. We used to be in a clan together online but we both left because the owners of the channels were rude and starting to charge.

Now there are Jerrys friends. I am only going to mention a few as I WILL hurt a few feelings if they ever read this. We will start off with the fools.

Matt- They have been friends for a LONG time. He can be goofy but has grown up a lot. I watch videos of jerryfars childhood and he is in it. Just recently he got married and Jerry was his best man. I was not asked to but I was a behind the scenes camera woman. I took some pictures that nobody else even thought of taking. His wife Michelle is really kewl and fun. They both like to drink and do karaoke. We would do it together more often if they didn't live out in the boonies. Michelle has 2 kids from a previous marriage and well Matt he is a kid himself. They are probably Jerrys' most real friends he has.

Brandon/Brent- They are twins that live north of us. Unmarried. They have also known Jerry as long as Matt. They all grew up together. At times they can be a pain in the butt, but hey what friend ain't. Occasional they come down for a baseball game or a concert and they will all hang out. We attempt to go to them but always find it is hard to spend quality time with friends in another town. Especially when we are a one car family and I work every weekend.

John L - Unmarried, but might as well be. He is a really stiff person but knows how to smile when he has to. I would be the same way if I was a producer. He is not a huge success but he will be one day. Right now he is trying to distribute his movie 420 http://www.imdb.com/title/tt0380160/ . Low budget but interesting. He has done some other movies like documentaries and shorts. But amongst the fools they will always remember their movies they made growing up. Exceptionally b rated but some were actually good. He has come a long way since then.

Now for the non Fools.

Jeff - He is a family friend and possible father of Jerrys youngest sister. He and the other possible father that she lives with now refuse to do a bloodtest to find out who the real father is so they just leave it alone. He now lives in California now but used to live with us, 3 years to be precise. He would still be living with us but he moved out 2 years ago because Jerrys grandmother was supposed to come and live with us but also because we had not lived alone since we go married and it had been 5 years He is into computers, Single, and has a job. Single still too. We still talk to him, but our hours don't work out so it ends up being emailing to get information across. He still visits us once a year. Usually around Thanksgiving.

Jim - One of Jerrys co-workers. He is a character. Real fun loving and an x-military shit kicker. He likes to sing but he won't do karaoke. More than happy to make an ass out of himself in front of people he knows though. He is married and has a totally brilliant daughter and exceptionally cute. We have known him for a couple years. He is lives out in B.F.E also so not much for hanging out. Jerry does stuff with him on the weekends, I see him but maybe once a month.

Ceazar - He is also a co-worker. Has a girlfriend who has a son. He loves that kid, but it also helps that he is a kid too. He is also into computers, console games, and everyone once in awhile Jerry takes him out on his little snake trips. But of course Jerry has taken almost everyone on his snake trips. Even Simba my friend. Anyways Ceazar has been friends with Jerry for quite awhile. They used to work with one another at another job. Jerry enjoyed that he worked for a mexican restaurant between the two jobs, its his favorite food place.

Dave - Yet another co-worker well x-coworker that lives a few hours north of here. He is a diabetic like Jerry and is as bad into computer as he is.

Then there are his herping pals.... TO MANY TO GO THROUGH EACH ONE. But I will state names and little pieces of info.

Doug and Robert - Brothers who are married, Doug just recently. They work for the walmart lube shop.

Joe - Married with 3 kids and is a kid doctor.

Richard - Really weird and has a girlfriend. Also has a job that gives him ALOT of days off but pays exceptionally well.

Then we all have the friends that live in another state and contact us but maybe 3 times a year.

Well I know he has ALOT more friends than that but it is our anniversary and all I can think of is getting laid and celebrating surviving him for 7 years.