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Sunday, March 30, 2008

You Are Like

Everyone has a twin in the world that most of us never meet. Like me, I have one that is 2 years younger than I am. She was going to the same school as me when I lived in Japan. I had second lunch, she had first. A lunch lady was constantly accusing me of skipping class and having 2 lunches. She also had a class next to mine one hour before I had mine. I never got to meet this person but she was in the same building as me. I was always trying to see her, but since I don't look at myself all the time, she could have walked past me hundreds of times.

Aside from the universal twin, everyone has a someone they are like, either in looks or in personality. Whether it is a friend, somebody someone knows, or a family member. People will say ... Hey you act just like so and so. Or you look like your grandmother. I have my grandmothers jutty chin. Or so says my mother. I hear it frequently. I am always getting people saying that I am like someone they know, or used to know. I never get to meet these people it is nice that my persona is contagious. I don't even know you and you have contracted the PSYKO disease.

Personally I think I am almost an image of my mother. Not in looks because I am much taller and I have natural dirty blonde hair. But in other aspects I am a carbon copy. People even confuse us on the phone. She and I are both highly talkative. We will strike up a conversation with a random person anywhere. We both play with kids while were waiting in line. We provide our husbands with meals daily. We hate people coming over to the house unannounced. Housework is done daily ( well for me I pick up things here and there but actually do the house on my day off). Only go out when our husbands take us with them. Have a weak immune system that cause us get sick easily. Migraines are genetic on my moms side. We will go all out for someone for nothing in return. We will give gifts of love or whatever and not expect anything back. (Though we both would like a thank/love you gift). My mother will make snacks for everyone at my fathers work. I will buy snacks and share with as many as I can. My mother and I will lend an ear or a shoulder to everyone who wants it.

My mother is an awesome cook. I have not yet acquired that talent. I do cook fairly well though. My mother will lay out my fathers clothes the day before. I know if I do that he will still put on what he wants to wear or forget I have even layed something out. My mother will keep in contact with all her kids and then pass around the information to everyone else. I don't spend allot of time on the phone so she can keep doing it... she's good at it. My mother has medical issues and is prone to breaking stuff. I have only broken my wrist and gotten a hair line fracture on my pinky toe. (Was in "The Boot" for our 1 year anniversary). When she is having an issue she will make sure everyone knows about it. I will tuff it out til it gets me hospitalized. My mother will not discuss with my father when he does something that just bugs her, but she will tell everyone else. I will hold it in til I can't take it anymore. She likes to watch reality shows and cooking shows. I am more into the action/comedy.

As you can see we have our differences too. I will get into my husbands activities so that we can spend more time together. I will work hours on end being sick, or in pain, until I am crippled. I will talk back to my husband, and to my boss.

But you see my husband is like my father is SOME areas. My mother says that I married my father. At times I can see it. It is funny too, cause when I make a comment, on that fact, he will attempt to change it, it hardly ever works. My father is not all that bad he just needs to learn how to make people happy. My father had a hobby with trains, my husbands is snakes. Now my father spends all his time on the computer ( now regretting I gave him that damn computer), pulling songs from his cd's and making them compilations. My husband is on the computer from wake to sleep unless he is watching shows that he has recorded or snake hunting. My father is not capable of doing stuff on his own. If my mother was to leave for awhile he would do what my husband does. He would eat out every night and take his dirty clothes to a family member. I guess when my mother and father first met he was really skinny, well my husband is really thin. So maybe I did marry my father.

So I am like my mother. That is not so bad. Everyone will grow up to be something like one of their parents whether they want to or not. I am just happy I got the good parts.

10 YEARS BABY

Our 10 YEAR anniversary is on April 22nd. I wanted it to be a big huge deal. My husband and I are taking the day off to celebrate it. But because of a serious financial woe we will now be celebrating it like every other day that we have some cash. We will go out to eat and maybe see a movie, then come home and watch TV. woo hoo. I guess if that is how we will celebrate then it will just be like a normal day.

I had many plans for our anniversary. I had not set on which one I wanted to do but I wanted to do more than just sit at home or run around town. I was thinking we could drive back up to Page and spend the day. Or visit some historic places that we had never been to like four corners. That would be kewl. I had also thought about going to Disney Land since I had not been there since Michael Jacksons Captain EO was there. One that I had really thought the most of was going to Vegas and renewing our vows. I wanted to do it in the same place and stay at the same hotel, even renew at the same time. I wanted to even bring the vows I had spoke.... providing I found them. I had even thought of having Devon come with us to kinda relive the experience. We had our friend Jenna and her new baby our first time. Unfortunately she cant be with us. We would even invite the people who got mad at us for getting married and not inviting them.

Like I said all this is not going to happen. We got into a financial issue and we owe the bank a bit of money because they covered our ass so we would not go to jail. (Read blog Pay Your Bills). Now we owe them and it is kinda strapping us. So because of it were will be broke for the second big deal anniversary. The first is the one year mark. The second is the 10 year mark. Then it is 25, 50, and then 75. If I am alive for the 100 it had better be HUGE that is all I am saying.

Like in many of my other blogs I have stated that my husband and I have a very special relationship. According to him people are jealous of our marriage. I think it is because we have no kids and it is true love. Many years later I still think of our first kiss. Shall we say sparks. Though it did not seem like it if you ever read my blog of how we got together. It was more like avoidance, and stalking. Anyways, we have a relationship that makes us want to be together everywhere. We don't go to the movies without each other. If invited to something we always ask if the significant other can come. When it is me, and he can't come, I actually wont go out. It is not very often that I want a night out without him. Maybe once a year I just want to go out and do stuff without him. But when I am out I am texting him and wanting to come home. He goes out allot with me. Because of how much I work and my hours it kinda prohibits me from going on the good herping trips. Allot of people that I talk to say that I smother him. Well he smothers me too so we are even. People also say that it is stupid I won't let him do certain things without me. Well if you would have heard his past stories and stuff I have seen in person you would be the same way. I am not controlling I just don't want to lose him. I mean we have been together for over 10 years. That has got to mean something. It isn't kids keeping us together, I can't have any, so it has to be love.

OR you know it could be the sex.... hehe. ( I just saw my husband and my mother roll there eyes, smile, and look away in my head). I know that is not it, I know it is love, but come on how many couples do you know that still have hot passionate sex after 10 years. Even I think it is weird sometimes. We will just be sitting there. Then I will decide to start kissing him between every commercial. Three commercial later it has gotten heavier. By the middle of a show or the end we are all over each other like a new couple leading into sex for the first time. It is amazing. We have passion like this quite often. It is not a every couple months thing either. More like once a week to every two weeks. HMMmmmmm just thinking about it is getting me all jittery. Wonder what he is doing right now. *Cough* Anways.... I just love him just wish I could get him something for our 10 year anniversary that proves it . I may have to wait till the fallowing month before I can do anything. I owe I owe where does all the money go?

Pay Your Bills




Well we learned a lesson the hard way. But that is how we always learn our lessons. But hopefully my husband realized that I am with him through whatever and that I don't stress. Over the past 6 years we have acquired quite a few credit cards. First it was the Bank One card. Then the Discount Tire card. Then the Best Buy card. Then the Bank of America card. Well I had the balances of all the other cards transferred to the Bank of America card when we got it so that we could keep track of what was due better. All in one lump sum. Well of course now the other cards are empty they could be used again. So that is what my husband did. He bought a new set of tires for the new truck and many other items. Now we had many balances again. One being mega huge. We still made payments. Then I did something stupid.
It all started with credit cards that we never paid. We were paying them, then I lost my job so it fell for awhile. About two months after we stopped paying they started calling us. One in particular that would call us at least twice a day was Bank Of America. My husband explained to them that we did not have the money because I had lost my job. (Like he told everyone who called). The gentleman on the phone began getting irate saying that we needed to pay this amount right now or suffer the consequences. My husband asked him to calm down and he started yelling. So my husband with the short temper that he has and growing up in a family of screamers yelled back and told them we would NOT be paying them. So we ignored them for years. We threw away all the mail from them and just hoped they would go away. Then one morning my husband answered the door to find a woman and a piece of paper standing there. All of a sudden we were being summoned to court. We were being sued for roughly 12,000 dollars. Knowing that we couldn't pay it my husband was terrified that he was going to go to jail. They were willing to settle with a full payment of 4500. Thanks to the bank we were able to pay them. We were actually considering filing bankruptcy or chapter 13 to get out of it and get out of all the others collectors.
So now I have vowed that we will NEVER have a credit card again. We will spend what we have. I am sure someone in the past told us not to get one because they can cause some serious woes. And of course we told them we could handle it like we do everything else. Oh how I wished we had actually listened, but you know young folk they prefer to learn from their own mistakes. So now we are attempting to pay off everyone else that we owe money too. Which by looking into paperwork and adding it all up we came to around $3,000. No we can't do it in one lump sum but we can make the attempt.
We have to pay the bank back but that is easy enough. We had already been paying them back for quite a few years because of a loan we got awhile back. That loan was to get the truck paid off and a few bills that we were in debt on. Of course we had to refinance the house but it was for the better. It allowed us to acquire a second vehicle a year later. Now we are back in the same boat. Now we owe 2 loans, all our bills, and the attempt to pay off the money to other collection agencies. So we don't have to go through this again.
With today's day and age you can pay your bills online. Which is what we do. It makes it so much easier and faster. Before we would drive around to every place with bill and cashiers check, that we got from the bank, for each one. Then we would sit at the place for awhile, waiting our turn, then pay. We would get a receipt and file it all together. Now we just boot up the computer on pay day because we both have direct deposit. Calculate our combined money. Tally the bills. Find out who was a right now and who could wait another week. Then go to each page and pay them. Leaving ourselves with roughly 300 to spend on food, gas and playtime. As far and receipts we would copy the confirmation of payment to an email and send it to ourselves and each other. It works out great. Now if we just get on the computer to pay them.