I promised my husband something quite a few months ago and I broke that promise more than once. This is my semi-public apology to him with yet another promise that I won't do it again.
I had promised him that when the baby came I would not bound him to the house. He could go fishing when ever he wanted. Same goes for the movies, herping, or hanging with friends. Anything he wanted. I would not trap him in the house. He told me that he would have no problem staying home and it was all about family time. I explained he would go stir crazy not having his freedom and I would not keep him in the house. I later proved my point within a months time.
Well a friend came into town. Hubby wanted to go fishing in the morning (this I was not aware of until 3am and he said he was not going). I guess he decided to go anyways, I was not invited, but I ruined it. All because I wanted to sleep in a little longer. He told me he waited for me to get up so he could leave. Well I got upset, forgetting about the 3am conversation. He cancelled his plans to appease me. I told him to just go realizing that I was trapping him in the house. Well he waited so long before finally leaving, he decided he would go to the movies. I was sorta invited to this but I had no babysitter. Mom was busy doing stuff with dad and I hate imposing on my friend Devon she has her own family that actually do stuff together. Besides I had already seen the movie once. This was hubby's third time. So he left and invited A LOT of people to join him at the movies. He took his sisters with him.
Since the birth of Rilee Jerry has had friends over, gone fishing, and played video games at a friends house. Since the birth of Rilee I have gone shopping. That was it and it was for one day and for a couple of hours. I did get to take my husband out to dinner that night. The only other times I leave the house is for the doctors or groceries.
One other reason I can think to why I got upset about him going fishing was because I have not had time out. I am the trapped one in the house. I want to go out with my husband and just have us time. Or have a night with my best friend. But I guess that is what I get. I wanted a baby and these are the consequences. I told him it would be like this. He would be going out and having the life that he had before I even got pregnant, and I would stay home and take care of the baby, morning, noon and night.
So here is my promise yet again. I promise to let you have your life and not bound you to the house. I was just being tired and selfish. It is out of my system now.
