Have a kid and your time is gone. I thought I was busy before. Now I need to have my life and take a kid along.
My son was born November of 2009. It is now 2014. Currently he is 4 years old, 42 inches tall, and 37 lbs.
I have not written my blog as every time I get near the computer my son completely freaks out. He can see me. He can hear me. He can touch me. BUT, if I just go near the laptop he acts like I have abandoned him and he begins crying and climbing all over me. I have had him sit in my lap so that he can watch. That was also a disaster. He proceeded to touch every button on the keyboard. Thus resulting in him ruining my work and forcing me to reboot the system. At 4 years old he still does this.
My newest trick, so that I can have some internet time, is I either put him down for a nap, or I turn on the tablet and let him do school for a bit. We work on the PC twice a day for an hour. He does 2 school projects then a fun program. Then return to school.
I have worked on teaching him since he was born. Identifying colors, counting cars, and words to items. He is brilliant but will only retain information for a short amount of time or what interests him most. Like helicopters and construction equipment.
He was holding his own bottle at 3 weeks old. Super fussy when he wanted to sleep and even crankier about being woke up (just like his father). Absolutely adored eating any and all vegetables, meats he would spit back out. I followed the doctors rules verbatim and when to introduce new foods. The rice and formula did not go over well at first. I had to tweak the flavor with cinnamon and sugar. From birth till now he has been underweight . He started walking at 8 months old that is because he was chasing a girl. Before he was born he had a girlfriend who was also not yet born.
She is 5 months older than he is. Her name is Amiela Elizabeth.
They get along great. But lately you put them together and things go bad. Its like bad + bad = satan x2.
We are currently getting him checked out for ADHD and possibly bipolar. For the past 2+ years he has gotten more and more out of control. Nobody is willing to watch him anymore because of his disobedience. We have any many complications with him that I have no idea what is causing it. People blame it on us saying that we do not pay enough attention to him. When I was working I would let him help me with dinner, and on my days off he helped me with housework and I took him to the park. Now that I am out of work I am with him 24/7. We spend 2 hours a day on the computer and I spend an additional 2 hours playing cars or blocks. When we watch shows I still interact with him so that he does not feel ignored. I can not say much for his father as he only watches TV, plays on his phone or computer, sleep, eat, and work. But that is another blog.
Anyways some of the things that he has done or does have bothered me. It makes me wonder if he is going to grow up being a murderer. He has NO respect for authority and no amount of punishment can get through him. We have spanked him, put him in the corner, placed him on the couch, given him lemon juice, slapped his hands, taken toys away from him, we have even told him we were going somewhere special, then cancelled because he did something wrong. None of it worked. We are repeatedly telling him no, numerous times a day. When he does good I reward him. But all day long we are telling him to leave the animals alone. He is forever picking up the cats or chasing the cats. He steals the dogs toy and hides them. Or he lays on the dog. Some other things that he is disobedient about is not doing things that he is told. You have to say his name three times. Usually yelling the third time. Then you have to keep on him to complete his task. Usually a punishment happens during this time because he loses his concentration for the task,. Like picking up his toys. The punishment is usually stand in the corner which he gets highly dramatic over. He will scream and run from you, like you are about to take a whipping stick to him. When he does deserve a smack on the butt he will scream as loud and as high as he can. I am waiting for the day when authorities show up at the door because the neighbors think I am killing him. He also has these moments of abuse. He likes to hit people when he is being put in time out. Or if you are not paying attention to him he will hit his fist into your leg or arm to get your attention. We have also caught him hitting the dog with a closed fist. Sometimes when they are playing or when the dog is just walking by. He pulls the dog and the cats tails. Or holds them down. He will get overly aggressive with the dog. He will grab the dogs face, with hands full of fur and shake its head. He will play in the water anywhere he can find it. No means nothing.
I have been awe stricken by some of the things that he has done. He has put the cat in the tub and poured shampoo all over it. He has peed on the floor. He has put another child into the bottom drawer of his tower. He has pulled fur out of the animals. He has locked animals into rooms. But the worst one he has ever done was smear his poop all over his shirt and pants. The next day I discovered that the poop was also on 3 walls and his carpet, and quite a few toys. While cleaning it up I also discovered that he had peed on his blocks and various other toys. Which promptly were thrown away. He was refused a lot of pleasures for a week. I was seriously upset.
Because of the way he acts no one will watch him. Of course I only have 2 sitters. My mother and my husbands grandmother. They are both old and medically unstable. My sister in laws all over the age of 18, won't even volunteer to watch him. They have to be paid a lot to watch him and even then it is like pulling teeth. I seem to be the only one who can control him (sort of), but I still do the best out of everyone. I had joined the gym and would put him in the daycare they have. I would get maybe 15-30 min of a workout and they would page me. Apparently he was climbing on stuff, sitting on other kids, stealing toys and throwing them at the kids, and playing in the sink. They would put him in time out but he would just get up and go play. They would try again and he would give them a dirty face and slide under the table and take off. Then they would call me. This was just one reason I had to quit the gym. He stayed with my girlfriend for a week while I went away for a funeral. Hubby was working nights and could not take care of him. She had a hard time with him too. Time out ment nothing. Slaps on the hand resulted in dirty looks and screaming. he would not stay in time out. He would not stay in his bed. He almost walked out the front door because he thought my friend had left. He was a challenge to feed. He pushed down other kids. My friend worried for her younger child and had her sent away to another family members house while he was there. I also had heard that he stole food and drinks without asking. I ended up cutting my trip short so that I could come home and deal with him.
I have had my moments also where I just end up crying cause I am lost. I will tell him no and he will make a face at me then continue doing it. I will put him in time out and the second I walk away he gets out. If I stand next to him to keep him in the corner, he kicks the wall and screams at me. He has been screaming at me a lot lately. When not screaming at me he is looking at me defiantly waiting to see if I come after him. When I finally get fed up and I do go after him he acts like I am coming after him with an axe. I have tried so much to get him to listen to me. I have offered things that he loves to get him to do other stuff. He loves doing school, taking baths and going out. I will not hesitate to take them away just to get him to obey. Sometimes even these items can not thwart him from being destructive. I have been calling him the ultimate destroyer since he was 10 months old.
He has caused scenes in stores that makes me want to run out of the store crying and leave him there. He screamed at the top of his lungs because I did not get him something from the toy isle. He has pulled things off shelves. Some items he has broken. He has grabbed people as they walk by. I always give him ultimatums. You can push the cart but if you hit someone you sit in the big part. Then when he is in the big part I say If you reach out and grab stuff then you are going in the little part. He almost always gets put in the little part.
People say he is only a child. He is only 4. Well I was photographer for Walmart for 9 years. I took pictures of kids of all ages. Especially kids his age. I saw a few that were troublesome. I saw kids with handicaps. The majority did not act like him. He is wild, unruly, and disobedient. I do not like taking him to peoples houses for get togethers because I can not get a single second to socialize as I am watching my son. The second he is out of my sights I am on him. People say that I am smothering him when I am trying to keep him from hurting other kids, eating/drinking other peoples stuff, sneaking out of the house, or getting into things that are not his.
I feel like a single parent which will be explained in the next blog. I am the sole everything for this child. I wake with him. I fix him breakfast lunch and dinner. I clean up his breakfast lunch and dinner. I play with him, I bathe him, I dress him. I take him on outings and I take him to the store with me. I take him to the doctors. I am even the name that he cries out for in the middle of the night.
Because of the way he acts no one will watch him. Of course I only have 2 sitters. My mother and my husbands grandmother. They are both old and medically unstable. My sister in laws all over the age of 18, won't even volunteer to watch him. They have to be paid a lot to watch him and even then it is like pulling teeth. I seem to be the only one who can control him (sort of), but I still do the best out of everyone. I had joined the gym and would put him in the daycare they have. I would get maybe 15-30 min of a workout and they would page me. Apparently he was climbing on stuff, sitting on other kids, stealing toys and throwing them at the kids, and playing in the sink. They would put him in time out but he would just get up and go play. They would try again and he would give them a dirty face and slide under the table and take off. Then they would call me. This was just one reason I had to quit the gym. He stayed with my girlfriend for a week while I went away for a funeral. Hubby was working nights and could not take care of him. She had a hard time with him too. Time out ment nothing. Slaps on the hand resulted in dirty looks and screaming. he would not stay in time out. He would not stay in his bed. He almost walked out the front door because he thought my friend had left. He was a challenge to feed. He pushed down other kids. My friend worried for her younger child and had her sent away to another family members house while he was there. I also had heard that he stole food and drinks without asking. I ended up cutting my trip short so that I could come home and deal with him.
I have had my moments also where I just end up crying cause I am lost. I will tell him no and he will make a face at me then continue doing it. I will put him in time out and the second I walk away he gets out. If I stand next to him to keep him in the corner, he kicks the wall and screams at me. He has been screaming at me a lot lately. When not screaming at me he is looking at me defiantly waiting to see if I come after him. When I finally get fed up and I do go after him he acts like I am coming after him with an axe. I have tried so much to get him to listen to me. I have offered things that he loves to get him to do other stuff. He loves doing school, taking baths and going out. I will not hesitate to take them away just to get him to obey. Sometimes even these items can not thwart him from being destructive. I have been calling him the ultimate destroyer since he was 10 months old.
He has caused scenes in stores that makes me want to run out of the store crying and leave him there. He screamed at the top of his lungs because I did not get him something from the toy isle. He has pulled things off shelves. Some items he has broken. He has grabbed people as they walk by. I always give him ultimatums. You can push the cart but if you hit someone you sit in the big part. Then when he is in the big part I say If you reach out and grab stuff then you are going in the little part. He almost always gets put in the little part.
People say he is only a child. He is only 4. Well I was photographer for Walmart for 9 years. I took pictures of kids of all ages. Especially kids his age. I saw a few that were troublesome. I saw kids with handicaps. The majority did not act like him. He is wild, unruly, and disobedient. I do not like taking him to peoples houses for get togethers because I can not get a single second to socialize as I am watching my son. The second he is out of my sights I am on him. People say that I am smothering him when I am trying to keep him from hurting other kids, eating/drinking other peoples stuff, sneaking out of the house, or getting into things that are not his.
I feel like a single parent which will be explained in the next blog. I am the sole everything for this child. I wake with him. I fix him breakfast lunch and dinner. I clean up his breakfast lunch and dinner. I play with him, I bathe him, I dress him. I take him on outings and I take him to the store with me. I take him to the doctors. I am even the name that he cries out for in the middle of the night.
